Family Law -- Or The Law of Breaking Up Families
We've all heard the phrase, “That which God hath put together let no man tear asunder.” Well, lawyers go where mere mortals fear to tread, and thus the dismembering of families has become an engine of the economy. Family law is more riddled with deception, corruption, bad lawyers, dumb judges, and lying experts than virtually any other field. Tread warily, hold onto your money, and leave your emotions at the door.
Divorce law has developed as a means of warfare between rich men and their jilted spouses, or so it often seems. Certainly divorce law is poorly matched to the needs of a working stiff and the gal he realizes he never should have slept with. Definitely it neglects the needs of children with a vengeance.
There are lots of things to fight over in a divorce, but remember, almost none of them are worth it, except the terms of child custody. Virtually any piece of property your average Joe or Jane is likely to have in their “marital estate” would be easier and cheaper to replace than to have a lawyer fight over your right to own it. Furthermore, if you are in your right mind, you will realize that leaving your ex-wife or ex-husband in the street is not exactly the best way to secure your happiness in the post-marital future.
It is because of this that courts are always pushing mediation and other processes that are supposed to make people come to their senses. But divorces don't happen because people come to their senses. They happen because people lose their minds.
My advice is to avoid divorce whenever possible. Sleep in different rooms, tolerate his lust for pornography, and don't pry into her social life. Don't enlist the kids into your battles. Take walks, talk about it to yourself, but just try to grin and bear it. As the years roll by, and your kids get to grow up with two parents, even in a house with too much discord, you'll realize it was worth the sacrifice.
But if you absolutely can't help yourself, and you have to get a divorce, do so kindly. Don't find the biggest jerk and sic him or her on your spouse. Don't adopt totally uncompromising positions and throw all your assets behind them. Apply sweet reason to your problems. Ask yourself if you can really afford two households. Ask yourself how often you want to see your kids. Don't invent instances of abuse that never occurred. Don't make separating your spouse from their new boy or girl-friend the sole goal of your existence. Don't vilify your ex-spouse to your children. Be decent, and find a decent lawyer. You'll save more than just your money.
By Charles Carreon
Divorce law has developed as a means of warfare between rich men and their jilted spouses, or so it often seems. Certainly divorce law is poorly matched to the needs of a working stiff and the gal he realizes he never should have slept with. Definitely it neglects the needs of children with a vengeance.
There are lots of things to fight over in a divorce, but remember, almost none of them are worth it, except the terms of child custody. Virtually any piece of property your average Joe or Jane is likely to have in their “marital estate” would be easier and cheaper to replace than to have a lawyer fight over your right to own it. Furthermore, if you are in your right mind, you will realize that leaving your ex-wife or ex-husband in the street is not exactly the best way to secure your happiness in the post-marital future.
It is because of this that courts are always pushing mediation and other processes that are supposed to make people come to their senses. But divorces don't happen because people come to their senses. They happen because people lose their minds.
My advice is to avoid divorce whenever possible. Sleep in different rooms, tolerate his lust for pornography, and don't pry into her social life. Don't enlist the kids into your battles. Take walks, talk about it to yourself, but just try to grin and bear it. As the years roll by, and your kids get to grow up with two parents, even in a house with too much discord, you'll realize it was worth the sacrifice.
But if you absolutely can't help yourself, and you have to get a divorce, do so kindly. Don't find the biggest jerk and sic him or her on your spouse. Don't adopt totally uncompromising positions and throw all your assets behind them. Apply sweet reason to your problems. Ask yourself if you can really afford two households. Ask yourself how often you want to see your kids. Don't invent instances of abuse that never occurred. Don't make separating your spouse from their new boy or girl-friend the sole goal of your existence. Don't vilify your ex-spouse to your children. Be decent, and find a decent lawyer. You'll save more than just your money.
By Charles Carreon